「龙腾网」QA问答：我31岁的女儿仍然单身，这正常吗？

正文翻译

Is it normal that my 31 years old daughter is still single, hates kids and doesn't even want to get married?

我31岁的女儿仍然单身，讨厌孩子，甚至不想结婚，这正常吗？

评论翻译
Kanthaswamy Balasubramaniam
This is 2022
Yes in 1990 - If a Girl was unmarried at 26 or 27 it was Alarms
In 2022 - No!!!
Its not abnormal for a 31 year old Girl to both hate children and be Single and not to want to get married.
You should WANT to get married not HAVE to get married
I have seen hundreds of couples get painful divorces because Mummy and Papa pushed them into marriages that they didnt want or were ready food.

现在是2022年了！
是的，在1990年的时候，如果一个女孩在26岁或27岁时未婚，那就是个警报了。
在2022年，不是！！！
一个31岁的女孩既讨厌孩子又单身又不想结婚，这并不奇怪。
人们应该想要结婚，而不是必须结婚。
我见过数百对夫妇痛苦地离婚，因为爸爸妈妈把他们推入了他们不想要的婚姻或铺好的道路。
Always the same story
Mummy said i was already 27 years old ..
The Pressure was too much from Parents, Relatives
Result is always the same story - Divorce Decreed under Irreconcilable Differences
There could be 20,000 Reasons why a 31 Year Old Girl doesnt want to get married
A Very Bad Breakup, Inferiority Complex wrt Complexion, Looks etc, Simply wanting to focus on Career at the moment and enjoying work too much, Being a Secret Lesbian or simply just wanting to have fun and stay single
What do you have to do ?
Let her live her life
You take a Holiday to Singapore or Australia and Enjoy Yours (Europe would not be right during the Ukranian Conflict)

总是一样的故事。
妈妈说我已经27岁了……
来自父母、亲戚的压力太大了。
结果总是一样的——离婚是在不可调和的分歧下被判决的。
一个31岁的女孩不想结婚可能有20000个原因。
经历了一次很糟糕的分手，自卑，肤色问题，长相问题等等，或者只想专于注事业，过于享受工作，是个秘密的女同性恋者，或者只是想保持单身、活得开心。
你应该怎么办？
让她去过她自己的生活。
你可以去新加坡或澳大利亚度假，享受你的假期（在乌克兰冲突期间，不要去欧洲）
Brownbear Isaiah
sir your placement of capital letters is fantastic was it the keyboard or you purposely capitalized secret and lesbian?

先生，你大写字母的位置太棒了，是键盘的原因，还是你故意大写的：“秘密”和“女同性恋”？
Simranjeet Singh Gandhi
In any case the regrets are bound to be much more on the side of getting married. There are on the other side too, but much less. All the major decisions of life are ultimately a trade-off of regrets.
Nothing comes free!

无论如何，结婚的遗憾肯定会更多。单身也会有遗憾，但要少得多。生活中所有的重大决定最终都是一种遗憾的权衡。
没有什么是免费的！
Gayatri Narayanan
I too was worried and extremely stressed, from the time my daughter was 22. We started getting good proposals, even now though she's 31, though not as many.
But she is very clear about not marrying, so now have come to terms with that.
Infact when we see & hear about incompatibility of several newly married couples, on hind thought, I feel it's not wise to force them into it.

从我女儿22岁起，我也很担心，压力也很大。我们刚开始会收到很多很好的建议，等到她31岁的时候，就没有那么多了。
她已经想清楚自己不会结婚了，所以我现在也接受了。
事实上，当我们看到和听到几对新婚夫妇的不和谐时，事后想想，我觉得强迫他们这样做是不明智的。
Supriya
Oh! This girl sounds so similar to me. I am 34 now but I got married when I was 31 and I don't like kids at all. My husband and I both intend to not have kids. I can understand her when she says she hates kids - most kids are actually annoying as hell. There are hardly any cute kids around.
Many of my friends are not having kids either. The person who asked the question - the mom or dad needs to chill. As Mr KB said, take a trip to the mountains or a beach and relax.

哦！这个女孩听起来很像我。我现在34岁，但我31岁结婚了，我一点都不喜欢孩子。我丈夫和我都不想生孩子。当她说她讨厌孩子时，我能理解她——大多数孩子实际上都很讨厌。周围几乎没有可爱的孩子。
我的许多朋友也没有孩子。问这个问题的人——妈妈或爸爸需要冷静。正如KB先生所说，去山上或海滩旅游，放松一下。
原创翻译：龙腾网 http://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处


Mani Shankar
As a loving parent, your concerns about your 31 years old daughter is quite reasonable and understandable. Any parent would like their daughter to get married and settle down in life.
However, your daughter may have her own valid reasons for remaining single, not wanting to get married and having kids. So, her decision not to get married now is quite right. She does not want to tell lies for the sake of getting married. This is quite appreciable and you must be proud of your daughter.

作为一位慈爱的父母，你对31岁女儿的担忧是合理的，也是可以理解的。任何父母都希望他们的女儿结婚并安顿下来。
然而，你的女儿可能有她自己的正当理由保持单身，不想结婚生子。所以，她现在不结婚的决定是对的。她不想因为结婚的事情而撒谎。这很值得赞赏，你一定要为你的女儿感到骄傲。
Imagine a situation wherein under compulsion from parents, she gets married and finds it difficult to lead a marital life with husband and both decide to get separated. This will cause more hurt to everybody.
May be, she will change her thoughts later about marriage. There are many women today, who are single, love their freedom, individuality, doing well at the professional and personal front and shouldering all responsibilities joyfully.
So, accept your daughter as she is, encourage and support her, give her the assurance that you are always there to listen, understand and support and just stop worrying about what others will say.
When you do this, you will love to see the pleasant atmosphere prevailing at home for everyone to enjoy. Best wishes.

想象一下，在父母的强迫下，她结婚了，发现很难和丈夫过上婚姻生活，两人决定分居。这将对每个人造成更大的伤害。
也许，她以后会改变对婚姻的看法。今天有很多单身女性，她们热爱自己的自由和个性，在职业和个人方面做得很好，并愉快地肩负着所有责任。
所以，接受你女儿的现状，鼓励和支持她，向她保证你总是在那里倾听、理解和支持，不要再担心别人会说什么。
当你这样做的时候，你欢喜的看到家里盛行着愉快的气氛，让每个人都能快乐。最美好的祝福。
Aditi S.M
No it is not ok!
You have to force her to get married by 24
Have kids by 26
And life her life crying each day regretting she was raised in a family that forces her to be who she is not.
Do you want this?
If yes please put pressure on her, weep everyday infront of her so that she gives up on her happiness.

不，这不好！
你必须强迫她在24岁之前结婚。
26岁的时候生孩子。
然后，她的人生每天都在哭泣，后悔在这样一个强迫她做别人的家里长大。
你想要这个吗？
如果是，请给她施加压力，每天在她面前哭泣，这样她就会放弃她的幸福。
Imagine if due to family pressure she gets married and even has a kid. But if that is not what she wants will she be happy?
There are so many girls not willing to marry or have kids and are living so happily, living a life they want.
They say purpose of getting married is to get a company when one falls sick or is low. Is someone really required?
If she can manage things on her own, let her take her own time. Let her figure out things.
Let girls live a life they want.
Let marriage not be a major goal in life.

想象一下，如果由于家庭压力，她结婚了，甚至有了一个孩子。但如果那不是她想要的，她会高兴吗？
有那么多女孩不愿意结婚或生孩子，她们过着幸福的生活，过着她们想要的生活。
他们说结婚的目的是在一个人生病或情绪低落时找一个伴。有些人真的拥有这些了吗？
如果她能自己管理事情，就让她自己慢慢来吧。让她自己去把事情弄清楚。
让女孩过她们想要的生活。
不要让婚姻成为人生的主要目标。
Sangeeta
Loving freedom is a very thing these days, irrespective of the gender.
I, myself, was not willing to get married until 29. I got married at 29 and then I was not ready to embrace motherhood. Finally, I decided to be a mother at the age of 34.
Oh yes, I also never liked kids. Now, I smile at kids after my son is born but yes, I am still not a very kid friendly person.
We look at the hardships of previous generation and subconsciously make a decision to not get married.

如今，无论性别如何，热爱自由都是一件非常重要的事情。
我自己直到29岁才愿意结婚。我29岁结婚，那时我还没有准备好做母亲。最后，我决定在34岁的时候做一个母亲。
哦，是的，我也从来不喜欢孩子。现在，我在儿子出生后，也会对孩子们微笑，但是，我仍然不是一个非常友善的人。
我们看着上一代人的艰辛，下意识地决定不结婚。