美国知乎问答：31岁的女儿单身，不想结婚，讨厌孩子，这正常吗？

根据我的观察，身边的大龄剩女的标志爱好就是旅游、健身、做饭、养猫狗、发软文。 她们自身条件不算差，本科，长相还可以，6分以上吧，工资够潇洒地养活自己。曾有一位朋友圈女孩，旅游做到了环游全国，乃至环游世界；做饭做到了每日一秀厨艺；养了一只贼聪明的狗狗；经常在朋友圈发感慨人生。。。但依旧单身 。

所以，单身是一种选项，但不是必选项。祝福天下单身仙女，40岁仍活出20岁的模样。

评论翻译：

Kanthaswamy Balasubramaniam
This is 2022
Yes in 1990 - If a Girl was unmarried at 26 or 27 it was Alarms
In 2022 - No!!!
Its not abnormal for a 31 year old Girl to both hate children and be Single and not to want to get married.
You should WANT to get married not HAVE to get married
I have seen hundreds of couples get painful divorces because Mummy and Papa pushed them into marriages that they didnt want or were ready food.
现在是2022年了！
是的，在1990年的时候，如果一个女孩在26岁或27岁时未婚，那就是个警报了。
在2022年，不是！！！
一个31岁的女孩既讨厌孩子又单身又不想结婚，这并不奇怪。
人们应该想要结婚，而不是必须结婚。
我见过数百对夫妇痛苦地离婚，因为爸爸妈妈把他们推入了他们不想要的婚姻或铺好的道路。

Always the same story

Mummy said i was already 27 years old ..

The Pressure was too much from Parents, Relatives

Result is always the same story - Divorce Decreed under Irreconcilable Differences

There could be 20,000 Reasons why a 31 Year Old Girl doesnt want to get married

A Very Bad Breakup, Inferiority Complex wrt Complexion, Looks etc, Simply wanting to focus on Career at the moment and enjoying work too much, Being a Secret Lesbian or simply just wanting to have fun and stay single

What do you have to do ?

Let her live her life

You take a Holiday to Singapore or Australia and Enjoy Yours (Europe would not be right during the Ukranian Conflict)

总是一样的故事。

妈妈说我已经27岁了……

来自父母、亲戚的压力太大了。

结果总是一样的——离婚是在不可调和的分歧下被判决的。

一个31岁的女孩不想结婚可能有20000个原因。

经历了一次很糟糕的分手，自卑，肤色问题，长相问题等等，或者只想专于注事业，过于享受工作，是个秘密的女同性恋者，或者只是想保持单身、活得开心。

你应该怎么办？

让她去过她自己的生活。

你可以去新加坡或澳大利亚度假，享受你的假期（在乌克兰冲突期间，不要去欧洲）

Gayatri Narayanan
I too was worried and extremely stressed, from the time my daughter was 22. We started getting good proposals, even now though she's 31, though not as many.
But she is very clear about not marrying, so now have come to terms with that.
Infact when we see & hear about incompatibility of several newly married couples, on hind thought, I feel it's not wise to force them into it.
从我女儿22岁起，我也很担心，压力也很大。我们刚开始会收到很多很好的建议，等到她31岁的时候，就没有那么多了。
她已经想清楚自己不会结婚了，所以我现在也接受了。
事实上，当我们看到和听到几对新婚夫妇的不和谐时，事后想想，我觉得强迫他们这样做是不明智的。

Supriya
Oh! This girl sounds so similar to me. I am 34 now but I got married when I was 31 and I don't like kids at all. My husband and I both intend to not have kids. I can understand her when she says she hates kids - most kids are actually annoying as hell. There are hardly any cute kids around.
Many of my friends are not having kids either. The person who asked the question - the mom or dad needs to chill. As Mr KB said, take a trip to the mountains or a beach and relax.
哦！这个女孩听起来很像我。我现在34岁，但我31岁结婚了，我一点都不喜欢孩子。我丈夫和我都不想生孩子。当她说她讨厌孩子时，我能理解她——大多数孩子实际上都很讨厌。周围几乎没有可爱的孩子。
我的许多朋友也没有孩子。问这个问题的人——妈妈或爸爸需要冷静。正如KB先生所说，去山上或海滩旅游，放松一下。

Mani Shankar

As a loving parent, your concerns about your 31 years old daughter is quite reasonable and understandable. Any parent would like their daughter to get married and settle down in life.

However, your daughter may have her own valid reasons for remaining single, not wanting to get married and having kids. So, her decision not to get married now is quite right. She does not want to tell lies for the sake of getting married. This is quite appreciable and you must be proud of your daughter.

作为一位慈爱的父母，你对31岁女儿的担忧是合理的，也是可以理解的。任何父母都希望他们的女儿能结婚并安顿下来。

然而，你的女儿可能有她自己的正当理由保持单身，不想结婚生子。所以，她现在不结婚的决定是对的。她不想因为结婚的事情而撒谎。这很值得赞赏，你一定要为你的女儿感到骄傲。

Imagine a situation wherein under compulsion from parents, she gets married and finds it difficult to lead a marital life with husband and both decide to get separated. This will cause more hurt to everybody.

May be, she will change her thoughts later about marriage. There are many women today, who are single, love their freedom, individuality, doing well at the professional and personal front and shouldering all responsibilities joyfully.

So, accept your daughter as she is, encourage and support her, give her the assurance that you are always there to listen, understand and support and just stop worrying about what others will say.

When you do this, you will love to see the pleasant atmosphere prevailing at home for everyone to enjoy. Best wishes.

想象一下，在父母的强迫下，她结婚了，发现很难和丈夫过上婚姻生活，两人决定分居。这将对每个人造成更大的伤害。

也许，她以后会改变对婚姻的看法。今天有很多单身女性，她们热爱自己的自由和个性，在职业和个人方面做得很好，并愉快地肩负着所有责任。

所以，接受你女儿的现状，鼓励和支持她，向她保证你总是在那里倾听、理解和支持，不要再担心别人会说什么。

当你这样做的时候，你欢喜地看到家里盛行着愉快的气氛，让每个人都能快乐。最美好的祝福。

Simranjeet Singh Gandhi
In any case the regrets are bound to be much more on the side of getting married. There are on the other side too, but much less. All the major decisions of life are ultimately a trade-off of regrets.
Nothing comes free!
无论如何，结婚的遗憾肯定会更多。单身也会有遗憾，但要少得多。生活中所有的重大决定最终都是一种遗憾的权衡。
没有什么是免费的！

Aditi S.M
No it is not ok!
You have to force her to get married by 24
Have kids by 26
And life her life crying each day regretting she was raised in a family that forces her to be who she is not.
Do you want this?
If yes please put pressure on her, weep everyday infront of her so that she gives up on her happiness.
不，这不好！
你必须强迫她在24岁之前结婚。
26岁的时候生孩子。
然后，她的人生每天都在哭泣，后悔在这样一个强迫她做别人的家里长大。
你想要这个吗？
如果是，请给她施加压力，每天在她面前哭泣，这样她就会放弃她的幸福。

Imagine if due to family pressure she gets married and even has a kid. But if that is not what she wants will she be happy?

There are so many girls not willing to marry or have kids and are living so happily, living a life they want.

They say purpose of getting married is to get a company when one falls sick or is low. Is someone really required?

If she can manage things on her own, let her take her own time. Let her figure out things.

Let girls live a life they want.

Let marriage not be a major goal in life.

想象一下，如果由于家庭压力，她结婚了，甚至有了一个孩子。但如果那不是她想要的，她会高兴吗？

有那么多女孩不愿意结婚或生孩子，她们过着幸福的生活，过着她们想要的生活。

他们结婚的目的是在一个人生病或情绪低落时找一个伴。有些人真的拥有这些了吗？

如果她能自己管理事情，就让她自己慢慢来吧。让她自己去把事情弄清楚。

让女孩过她们想要的生活。

不要让婚姻成为人生的主要目标。

Rini George

Is there any rule book that says your 31 year old daughter should be married. That she must no matter what love kids or should want marriage?? Or does the law asks her to be so??

No must be the answer.

When there is no such rule/law they why so much pressure.

Some people get married at 24, have kids by 30, some other get married at 35 have kids by 36, some marry at 30 and decide to never have kids. Some never want to take the path of marriage. That's their personal choice. It's better for everyone if we don't interfere and disturb their balance of life and let them be.

有什么规定，你31岁的女儿必须要结婚。不管怎么样，她必须爱孩子或者是想要结婚？？还是法律要求她这么做？？

答案一定是否定的。

当没有这样的规则或法律时，他们为什么要承受如此大的压力。

有些人24岁结婚，30岁生孩子，有些人35岁结婚，36岁生孩子，有些人30岁结婚，决定永远不要孩子。有些人从不想走婚姻之路。这是他们个人的选择。如果我们不干涉和扰乱他们的生活平衡，让他们顺其自然，那对每个人都好。

Rich Thomas

your daughter is choosing to avoid the Pitfalls of being married. Many women who get married and have kids were very different beforehand. A woman goes thru a transformation of sorts That ain’t pretty to watch. She goes from being a youthful Vibrant woman with a nice figure to someone who’s totally grumpy and misshapen. Her sex life goes from energizer bunny to sluggish turtle. She’s usually tired and no longer wants to get out and do things. Your daughter wants to keep her youthful figure and have freedom to what she wants and she wants. She’d rather not have to deal with the stress and responsibility Of a husband and kids who would suck up her energy. In other words she a totally normal woman who wants to have as much fun as she can while she’s still young

你女儿正在选择避免结婚的陷阱。许多结婚生子的女性在结婚之前和之后都有很大的不同。一个女人经历了一种不好的转变。她从一个身材优美、朝气蓬勃的年轻女人变成了一个脾气暴躁、身材畸形的女人。她的性生活从精力旺盛的兔子变成了行动迟缓的乌龟。她通常很累，不想再出去做事了。你女儿想保持年轻的身材，想做什么就做什么。她宁愿不必面对丈夫和孩子的压力和责任，因为他们会吸走她的精力。换句话说，她是一个完全正常的女人，她想在年轻的时候尽可能多地享受乐趣。

Paul Hackshaw
Who decides what is normal when it comes to other people? It’s her life and if she doesn’t want to marry then it’s no one else’s business but hers. Not all women are maternal nor want kids.
当涉及到其他人时，谁能决定什么是正常的？这是她的生活，如果她不想结婚，那么这不是别人的事，是她的。并非所有女性都是母亲，也有不想要孩子的。

Claire Harris

Perfectly. If she hates kids then she hates kids. Not everyone meets someone they love enough to marry and lots of people are more career than family oriented. Love her for who she is, be proud that you raised an independent daughter not afraid to follow her own path in life.

完美。如果她讨厌孩子，那就让她讨厌孩子。并不是每个人都会遇到他们爱得足以结婚的人，很多人更注重事业而不是家庭。爱她本身的性格，为你养育了一个独立的女儿而自豪，她不怕走自己的人生道路。

Julie Raines

Yes, it’s normal. Many men and women in their 30s are shunning marriage or relationships altogether because they don’t find the drama worth it. Men don’t see the need to marry as they can get sex freely from women without committing to them and are able to cook and clean on their own. Women don’t see the need to marry since they are able to work and support themselves. They may find the freedom of living their own life preferable to looking after a husband.

There are exceptions, but most men and women are able to look after themselves without relying on a spouse. So the only real reason to marry is if you fall in love with the other person and can’t imagine life without them.

是的，这很正常。许多30多岁的男性和女性完全回避婚姻或恋爱，因为他们觉得这部戏不值得。男人不认为有结婚的必要，因为他们可以自由地从女人那里得到性，而不需要承诺，并且能够自己做饭和打扫卫生。女性认为没有必要结婚，因为她们能够工作和养活自己。他们可能会发现，与照顾丈夫相比，自由地过自己的生活更可取。

当然也有例外，但大多数男性和女性都能够在不依赖配偶的情况下照顾自己。所以结婚的唯一真正原因是如果你爱上了另一个人，并且无法想象没有他们的生活。

In my opinion, marriage or relationships in general are wonderful if you are with the right person, but they can be absolutely horrible and even dangerous if you don’t choose wisely. It is a huge gamble as people change throughout their life and they may change into someone you really don’t like. This is beyond your control and impossible to predict. Some people will find the risk worth it while others don’t.

Your daughter is fine the way she is and can lead a perfectly fulfilling life as a single, childless woman if she chooses. If she regrets her choice years from now, the she will just have to live with it and make the best of her situation.

在我看来，如果你和对的人在一起，婚姻或关系总的来说是美好的，但如果你不明智地选择，它们可能是绝对可怕的，甚至是危险的。这是一场巨大的赌博，因为人们一生都在变化，他们可能会变成你不喜欢的人。这超出了你的控制范围，无法预测。有些人会觉得值得冒这个险，而有些人则觉得不值得。

你的女儿很好，如果她愿意的话，她可以作为一个单身、没有孩子的女人过上完美的生活。如果几年后她后悔自己的选择，她需要接受它，并作出那时局面最好的选择。

Swasini Sudarsan

Marriage is a life long commitment to someone whom you love. It’s solely a personal decision if your daughter wants to get married or not.

Your daughter might have her own priorities over getting married and having a family.

Your daughter could be one of those not so normal women!

It takes guts to love yourself and live only for your dreams in this world.

I love and respect your daughter because:

She doesn’t want to get married for the sake of getting married to impress few people around her.

She is independent, brave and self sufficient to survive in this judgemental world.

婚姻是对你所爱的人的终身承诺。你女儿想不想结婚完全是个人决定。

你的女儿在结婚和组建家庭方面可能有她自己的优先事项。

你的女儿可能是一个不那么正常的女人！

在这个世界上，爱自己，只为梦想而活，需要勇气。

我爱并尊重你的女儿，因为：

1、她不想为了给周围的人留下美好的印象而结婚。

2、她独立、勇敢、自给自足，能够在这个动辄对他人评头论足的世界中生存。

Ellen-Jo Lancey

I am 58 years old, happily married and happily childless. Not everyone is cut out for parenthood, Good for your daughter that she recognized this instead of bowing to convention and making a child she doesnt want. People think that conceiving makes them special. it doesnt, almost anybody can do it.

我今年58岁，婚姻幸福，没有孩子。并不是每个人都适合做父母，这对你的女儿来说是件好事，她认识到这一点，而不是屈从于传统，生了一个她不想要的孩子。人们认为怀孕使他们与众不同。事实并非如此，几乎任何人都能做到。

Christopher Petit

It’s more common than you think.

Your daughter may not want to marry because she has rightfully realized that, when people marry, even before having kids, the woman ends up doing the lion’s share of the housework, cleaning and chores —- even if both spouses have careers. Even completely self-sufficient men start to rely on their spouse to do many of the things they did themselves for years.

And that marriage improves the man’s happiness but lowers the woman’s happiness. So in effect even before having kids she HAS one —- her husband.

And if your daughter hates kids, do you really think it’s a fantastic idea for her to be a parent?

So I wouldn’t worry if it’s normal or not.

这比你想象的要普遍。

你的女儿可能不想结婚，因为她理所当然地意识到，当人们结婚时，甚至在没有孩子之前，女人最终会承担大部分家务、清洁和日常零碎——即使配偶双方都有职业。即使是完全自给自足的男人也开始依赖他们的配偶为他们做多年来自己做的许多事情。

这种婚姻提高了男人的幸福感，但也降低了女人的幸福感。所以事实上，甚至在有孩子之前，她就有了一个孩子——她的丈夫。

如果你的女儿讨厌孩子，你真的认为她做父母是个好主意吗？

所以我不会担心这是否正常。

Bharanithar Babu E
Yes, it is.
She is old enough to take decisions for herself. Please respect it. Why force her into marriage when she isn't interested in it?
是的。
她已经长大，可以自己做决定了。请尊重这件事。如果她对婚姻不感兴趣，为什么还要强迫她结婚？

Ankita Joshi
She is perfectly normal mam. That is the life even I want. She sounds just like me. :)

她完全是正常的。这就是我想要的生活。她听起来很像我。

Sabine Schaefer
Absolutely normal.
Don't press on her, she might change her mind once she meets the right guy, if she doesn't it's not a great deal.
Thankfully we live in times when the value of a woman no longer depends on the presence of a husband and at least two children.

绝对正常。
别逼她，一旦她遇到合适的人，她可能会改变主意，如果她不这么做，那也没什么大不了的。
谢天谢地，我们生活在一个女人的价值不再取决于丈夫和至少两个孩子的存在的时代。

Amit Vikram
No it's not normal.
She is possessed, probably.
And she must be exhorcised immediately.
不，这不正常。
她可能着魔了。
她需要立刻进行驱魔。

Mohammed Yousuf
There may be reasons for her to decide against marrying or having kids. Some of the reasons :
1- She might have seen married couple having lots of quarrels and ultimately heading for divorce.
2- She might have seen her own parents life which she never liked.
3- Her sexuality to be determined.
她可能有理由决定不结婚或不生孩子。其中一些原因：
1、她可能看到已婚夫妇争吵不休，最终走向离婚。
2、她可能见过自己父母的生活，但她从来都不喜欢。
3、她的性取向有待确定。

Sahil
She is already overage for marriage.. Now you have to find out 35 to 40yrs of age guys for her, might she doesn't like such guys.
So take steps as early as possible. Marriage is necessary for taking the life experiences including those which is need to have it in any case, cannot be controlled through determination.
她已经完全超过了适婚的年龄了……现在你必须为她找到35到40岁的男人，也许她不喜欢这样的男人。
因此，要尽早采取措施。婚姻是获取生活经验的必要条件，包括那些无论如何都要获取的经验，无法通过确定性来控制的经验。

angeeta

Loving freedom is a very thing these days, irrespective of the gender.

I, myself, was not willing to get married until 29. I got married at 29 and then I was not ready to embrace motherhood. Finally, I decided to be a mother at the age of 34.

Oh yes, I also never liked kids. Now, I smile at kids after my son is born but yes, I am still not a very kid friendly person.

We look at the hardships of previous generation and subconsciously make a decision to not get married.

如今，无论性别如何，热爱自由都是一件非常重要的事情。

我自己直到29岁才愿意结婚。我29岁结婚，那时我还没有准备好做母亲。最后，我决定在34岁的时候做一个母亲。

哦，是的，我也从来不喜欢孩子。现在，我在儿子出生后，也会对孩子们微笑，但是，我仍然不是一个非常友善的人。

我们看着上一代人的艰辛，下意识地决定不结婚。

I remember my mother doing all the household chores even when she is unwell. She worked 365 days in a year.

I remember my neighbor aunty cooking in a hurry and then rushing to office. While the uncle woke up only by 8.00 PM. Uncle had Saturdays off but Aunty had office on Saturdays as well. Even on Saturdays Aunty use to cook before she started for office.

Recently, a young guy has joined us as an intern. He was talking to someone over the call so we teasingly asked him, “girlfriend?”. He replied, “no mam, I don’t want to get married so I don't want to get into any commitment”.

我记得我母亲做着所有的家务，即使她不舒服。她一年工作365天。

我记得我的邻居阿姨匆匆忙忙地做饭，然后赶往办公室。而叔叔可以睡到晚上8点才醒来，他星期六休息，但是阿姨星期六也要办公。即使在星期六，阿姨在上班前也要做好饭。

最近，一个年轻人加入我们做实习生。他在电话里和别人交谈，于是我们打趣地问他：“女朋友？”。他回答说：“不，是妈妈，我不想结婚，所以我不想做出任何承诺。”

I asked him, “what happened?” He told me, “I think, males are burdened with too much of financial responsibilities. I want to earn and spend on myself, not my kids or spouse.”

I asked him, “why do you feel so? Female these days are equally supporting financially”.

After a fraction of seconds, he replied “today, I feel bad for my dad. He earned so hard and today, he doesn't even own a property.”

I just smiled and understood the pressure of other gender.

Now, coming back to your question…

We have absorbed a lot from our previous generation. We aren't able to undo it.

Your daughter is completely normal. She is just scared of the responsibilities that comes with marriage and kids.

She might change her mind when she meets someone equal. Someone who would ensure her that all her responsibilities would be shared equally and she would not be burdened.

我问他：“为什么？”他告诉我，“我认为男性肩负着太多的经济责任。我想为我自己赚钱和消费，而不是我的孩子或配偶。”

我问他：“为什么你这么觉得？现在女性在经济上都是平等的。”。

几秒钟后，他回答说：“今天，我为我的父亲感到难过。他挣了那么多钱，今天，他甚至没有自己的财产。”

我只是微笑着，理解其他性别的压力。

现在，回到你的问题……

我们从上一代人那里吸取了很多东西。我们无法撤消它。

你女儿完全正常。她只是害怕婚姻和孩子带来的责任。

当她遇到平等的人时，她可能会改变主意。一个能够确保她所有的责任都能平等分担的人，她不会承受任何多余的负担。

Alina Khan

There are two reasons why she is not getting married:

a) She is in love with a guy and feels that you may not approve of him, so, she says that she doesn’t want to get married. Possible reasons could be different race, religion, caste or economic backgrounds.

b) She is in love with a girl and fears you won’t approve of same-sex relation.

c) She has no one in her life and feels that arranged marriages are fake.

d) She is asexual.

e) She has her heart broken and doesn’t want to invest in a relationship anymore.

d) She is not ready mentally to get married.

e) She feels that the idea of marriage is futile.

她不结婚有几个原因：

a） 她爱上了一个男人，觉得你可能不赞成他，所以，她说她不想结婚。可能的原因是：不同的种族、宗教、种姓或经济背景。

b） 她爱上了一个女孩，担心你不赞成同性关系。

c） 她生活中没有合适的人，但感觉包办婚姻是不真实的。

d） 她性冷淡。

e） 她心碎了，不想再投资感情了。

d） 她还没有做好结婚的心理准备。

e） 她觉得结婚的想法是无关紧要的。

Possible solutions:

a) Try to talk to her about any guy she may be seeing. Be open to accept a person who is different from your expectations.

b) You will have to go against the society and your family if you want to embrace a homosexual daughter.

c) Tell her that marriage offers many benefits.

d) You can’t do anything. Let her be.

e) Tell her that all men are not the same. Give example of yourself and how much you love your wife.

d) Tell her that there is an age for everything. She may have difficulty in having kids after 35.

e) Tell her that marriage is a bond of the lifetime and tell her how you have benefited from it.

All the best :)

可能的解决方案：

a） 试着和她谈谈她可能遇到的任何男人。开放地接受一个与你期望不同的女婿。

b） 如果你想拥抱一个同性恋女儿，你就必须与社会和家庭作对。

c） 告诉她婚姻有很多好处。

d） 你什么都做不了。让她去吧。

e） 告诉她所有的男人都不一样。举例说明你自己和你有多爱你的妻子。

d） 告诉她什么都有年龄。35岁以后她可能很难生孩子。

e） 告诉她婚姻是一生的纽带，告诉她你们是如何从中受益的。

祝你一切顺利：）

Urban Lady
This is such a weird response. OP’s daughter is normal, stop pushing your ideology into thinking that every woman need to have children.
这真是一个奇怪的答复。题主的女儿很正常，别再把你那每个女人都必须要孩子的想法强加给别人了。

Odde Siva Kesavam

Different people had given different advices mostly concluding that your daughter’s situation as normal as the humanbody temprature being 98.6¤F.
If that is the case as being advocated by many :
then why does a man/ woman need a marriage?
What is the sanctity of the institution of marriage?
How does a man fulfill his fatherhood or a woman her motherhood?
Why are so many marriage bureaues working in the country & abroad?
Why so many matrimonial advertisements are coming in all the news papers?
Why there are infertility clinics in every nook & corner of the country?
How do you explain the surrogacy mother’s syndrome?
Why so many issueless couples adopting children without even knowing the origin of the child?

此人是个印度人，备注是材料科学家，冶金学博士，印度科学研究所退休人员，之前主要在QA宣传《博伽梵歌》（瑜伽界最高指导经典），现在账号因为不知名原因被禁用了……

不同的人给出了不同的建议，主要结论是：你女儿的情况和人体温度98.6华氏度一样正常。
如果你们这么多人都认为正常，那么：
1、为什么一个男人/女人需要结婚呢？
2、婚姻制度的神圣性是什么？
3、一个男人如何履行他的父亲职责，一个女人如何履行她的母亲职责？
4、为什么这么多婚姻局在国内外工作？
5、为什么所有的报纸上都有这么多婚姻广告？
6、为什么这个国家的每个角落都有不孕不育诊所？
7、你如何解释代孕母亲综合症？
8、为什么这么多没有问题的夫妇甚至不知道孩子来自哪里就收养了孩子？

The case of your daughter in my personal opinion is not normal at all.

It is a case of abnormal behaviour& is a case of wrong diagnosis. The remedy being suggested is worse than the melady.

I don’t want to go into details , except suggesting that :

you yourself & your spouse should jointly endeavour to arrange for her marriage immediately.

Otherwise, you both will be deemed to be failing in your duties as parents , inflicting the most unkindest cut of all on your innocent daughter.

Wishing you success in your endeavours.

在我个人看来，你女儿的情况根本不正常。

这是一个异常行为的案例，也是一个错误诊断的案例。上面的人提的补救措施比诊断更糟糕。

我不想谈细节，只是建议：

1、你自己和你的配偶应该立即共同努力安排她的婚姻。

2、否则，你们俩都将被视为不履行作为父母的职责，给你们无辜的女儿造成了最无情的伤害。

祝你事业成功。

Richard Dewalt
This person’s account has been banned for what I hope you realize are logical reasons, particularly in looking up at the answer above.
Anyone reading this, please realize that a 31-year-old is far beyond childhood and is not a breeding slave to their parents.
You did not ‘fail in your duty’ either. If you raised a kid who has become a successful and independent adult, you succeeded.
楼上的帐户已经被禁用了，但我还是希望你能意识到，你上面查看到的答案是合乎逻辑的。
任何读到这篇文章的人，请意识到一个31岁的人远远超越了童年，他们不是父母的生育奴隶。
你也没有“失职”。如果你抚养的孩子已经成为一个成功和独立的成年人，你就成功了。

Marie Perkins
Is this a serious comment??? This isn't the 1800s.
这是一个严肃的评论吗？？？现在不是19世纪。

男人特别主动。多半发生在青春期二十出头。为爱生为爱死，干净纯粹能献上真心，可以苦守可以主动追求。即便你是没发育完全胸口一马平川的黄毛丫头一个，他们也能当你是九天玄女仙子下凡。

二十大几三十加之后的男人们，已经开始趋向理智。少了青春热血。他们会主动。但是当主动一次次得不到回应，他们也会及时停下脚步。

仅共勉