一声叹息，昨日新加坡又现一起家庭悲剧，夫妇已双双去世……
据新加坡本地多家媒体报道，1月30日早上8点左右，警方接到报案称裕廊园景路发生家庭纠纷，家中女佣满身是血逃出家门，在路边向众人大呼救命。警方到达时，事发单位门被反锁，夫妻在屋内争执，新加坡民防部队出动将夫妻二人送往国大医院，但最终不治。
怨偶双双命丧黄泉
据警方调查，血案经过疑是男方（37岁，新加坡人）先挥刀砍伤女方（39岁，马来西亚籍永久居民，夫妻均为华人），再砍伤自己企图自杀，女佣因劝架，也被伤及，身上多处负伤。他们还有一年幼儿子，事发时不在家。
据联合早报报道，邻居称，女方及女方父母在事发单位居住三十余年，在女方结婚后，女方父母回吉隆坡打点生意，把单位留给女儿和女婿住。在命案发生同时，新加坡多家媒体收到男子通过Email发出的遗书——“裕廊凶杀案”。
遗书道出屈辱真相
在遗书中，男方讲述了12年的屈辱经历。在他们恋爱并同居5年多时，曾与妻子（当时的女朋友）分手过一段时间，在此期间，妻子与另外的男性交往并怀孕生下一个孩子，但男方还是选择与女方结婚，并把这个不是自己亲生的孩子当成自己的孩子一样看待。但妻子始终不尊重他，男方本来想为了孩子保全完整家庭，但女方却执意要离婚而且在处理离婚协议的过程中，竟扮演起受害者，让仍在新加坡建筑学院求学的男方不得不停止学业来反驳她的控告，“终于认清她是一个怎样的人”。男方也称与女方相处让自己精神压力巨大，经常有自杀冲动。遗书中，他也提到非亲生的孩子，希望当局能为儿子找寄养家庭。
遗书及简短翻译
Final Note
It’s sad that things had to be in this way, but with 12 years of greivances, suffering in silence and humilation i had with her and what i got in return is her lies, empty promises and betrayal. Totally ignoring my sacrifaces, endurance towards her bad character and wrong doings. All these years of marriage with her, i had constantly contemplating with the idea of suicide, the mental stress i had with her is too much for me.
（忍受了12年的生活，只换回她的谎言及空口承诺，在与她的婚姻里，因为压力太大，我无数次想自杀）
My Studies Only after i started study, i finally gained back some confidence and idea of what i wanted to do again. I had make so much effort in being an “A” student. Time required for to and fro from my place to BCA takes about 4 hours daily and i make sure i went for every lesson no matter how long the lessons are, even for sometimes 1 to 2 hour lesson. Sleep only 4-6 hours daily and the rest of the time are for studies, no TV, no Entertainment. Exam and Project period is even worst, Only 4 hours of sleep and have to sleep at 11pm and wake up at 3am so that i have more time to do what i need to do and prepare for the day. Study at 36 years old after being away from studies about 18 years and especially wanted to fight with the elites from china to be top of the cohort and “A” student is not a joke.
（我又重回校园并找回一些自信，因为我也可以成为拿到“A”成绩的学生。我每天只睡4-6小时，不看电视，没有娱乐。作为36岁的，时隔18年后才重返校园的我，和中国来的精英们竞争，我还能拿A不是开玩笑的）
Our Divorce I had already agree that we can divorce as long as we keep it peaceful as i don’t want to hurt the kid in anyway and my studies shouldn’t be affected. I came from a divorced family and i know very clearly how much hurt it can give to a kid, firstly, she agreed. However after she talk to her lawyer with APL Law Corporation, she turned and tried to act as the victim, giving false information to discredit me and my contribution to this family, thinking of using Singapore Women’s Charter against me. Finally, forced me out of my studies to contest her allegations and the divorce is really the breaking point for me.
（我已经同意和平分手，因为我不想伤害我们的孩子，也不想学业受影响。我自己就是来自于离异家庭，我知道这对孩子有多么不好的影响。她一开始统一体了，结果她后来找了律师，就开始扮演受害者，否认我对家庭的贡献，最终我不得不中断我的学业来反驳她的指控）
Women’s Charter in Divorce That is the worst part in singapore law, totally unfair and biased against guys in divorce, it doesn’t consider the fault or problem of the woman in the marriage, all benefits will be given to the ladies. That is why many woman are abusing it for their own financial benefits and using it to threaten their husband during marriage. Although there are appeals for this charter to be abolish or amended but as usual, the government won’t do anything against it without any benefits as they worried about losing woman voters and singaporean guys had to live with terms to that. Law should be Fair and Just, but somehow it is no longer the case for me.
（新加坡法律一点都不公平，根本不考虑女性在婚姻中的过错，在离婚中太偏向女方。）
Her Family and TYT Corporation Her family is really a problematic and totally unethical one. Parents are extremely selfish and moral values are totally at ground zero. Father is only interested in shares, disregard the family and constantly plotting against his own children to seize control of the company that they built. Mum is totally a irresponsible liar, constantly making empty promises, always like to show off and brag to others how good she and her family is, but never consider her own mannerism and behavior in public. Pack leftover food for friends to show off where she went, for goodness sake, that is not being generous, that is constantly insulting people. Even treat her own home like garung guni, stuffing house with rubbish she find outside and never bother to tidy them. As for the three pillar of TYT Corporation, Andy, Karen and Rachel. Many would consider Andy and Karen as the Mr nice guy and Karen Ms nice lady and Rachel as the scheming stingy wife. At least Rachel is the only true person to her own character. Andy Koh, your Mr Nice Guy is actually committing Bigamy for the past 7-8 years. Married in singapore but marry another woman in china, and hiding her in Malaysia with a kid almost 7 years old. His parents and karen, all know about it and all trying to cover up for him all these years. So in singapore as a cover up or make amends, he acts like a caring husband and following Rachel way in the growth of company. Rachel is not stupid so i believe she knew about the Bigamy as well, because of his frequent flyer to Malaysia with lies of trying to expand TYT Corp to Malaysia and she even got a letter from the mistress asking her to leave him so she could take care of him. Yes, he already expanded his roots there long ago. Why is she enduring all that? Simple, true to perspective, she is the greedy and scheming woman. Would you want about $4.000 in alimony and about a million or two in assets from divorce or constantly drawing around $8,000 in salary and about $7,000 allowances monthly, driving Jaguar and changing car annually with whole company of people have to listen to you and the assets are still under her control if she stay married? Answer is simple, at least to her.
（讲了一些关于他妻子家人的事情，说她母亲也是个骗子，说她兄弟重婚还有私生子） Karen Koh, Ms Nice Lady, the lady i’m with for 12 years. I’m being blinded by her lies and seemingly nice lady nature. Staying with her for 5 years plus before we broke off first. Then she got involve as a mistress to a married guy, got pregnant and abandoned. However, she insisted that she wanted to keep the kid, her parents as usual doesn’t care or bother with that.
（这里就是前文提到的，同居5年后妻子生下别人的孩子，她父母也不管）
The experience i had with her already told me, she will never be a loving and caring mother. Kid to her is just like me to her, dogs. She just want companionship whenever she want, she won’t be responsible to them or show love and care towards them. She promised that she will be a changed person and somehow, i believed her, you can call me blind by love or desperation to settle down, i actually propose to her and we got married. I thought after the last failed relationship with the married guy, she will realise the value of a man when he is willing to stand by you even this kind of thing happened and willingness to care and love a kid that is not his. After all these years, truth be told, she totally possess her parents traits and even worse than that, Ingrate, Liar, Schemer, Irresponsible, Actress, Lack of moral values, really if you named it, she almost got it. For sure even though the kid is not my biological son but i love him maybe even much more than my own, as i actually quit my work to take care of him and this family for 4 years before i started my studies.
（她不是个好母亲，孩子对她来说就像宠物一样。她不负责，也不懂爱。我还是相信她并和她结婚共同照顾这个孩子，但她和她家人越来越过分了。我还是爱这个孩子，即使不是我亲生的，我还辞掉工作，照顾他4年。）
TYT Corporation Pte Ltd As for how much they expolit the company to evade their own taxes and increase their own benefits, that is the job of IRAS, see if the government want to check on them.
（妻子的公司有偷税漏税行为，希望政府严查）
The Maid, Jasmen Jamelarin Corpuz I had already given her many chances, and wanted to terminate her services 4 years ago because of the terrible way she is at managing her job and the kid, which resulted in the kid having skin and allergy issues but she gained the favor of Karen and Karen chose to keep her while ignoring my wish. After that, she had been giving me attitudes and teaching the kid to disrespect me and not greeting me by using the threat of tears and the boy love for her. She is also one of the my greatest mistakes. I shouldn’t trust her into this family, let the kid sleep with her and be under her care while i study. Frankly, it is not my choice anyway as Karen is the one deciding them all along, disrespecting my opinions and wish all along. In this family, i’m like the outsider and like Karen is the husband, i’m the housewife and he brought a mistress, the maid, back and can even tell me “I don’t care whether you like it or not, i want her in this family. If you have problems with her, work it out with her.” who can accept this kind of nonsense yet i endured for nearly 4 years. An excellent bootlicker, politician and manipulator, destroy my family so that she can enjoy the luxuries of life with Karen.
（对女佣很不满意，但妻子不听他意见坚持要留下女佣）
My only worry, Kid Her parents groomed such kind of kids, after our death, i can imagine how bad the kid will be in the future with them. Her mum is the one who promised that she would stay at home to take care of the baby so that i can do my own work, however within less than a month, she complained the lack of freedom, body aches and sickness, she can’t take care of him, which forced me to stop all my working plans to be a home dad to take care of the kid so that she can continue to work. After i took care of the kid, she immediately recover and going out everyday with her friends, that is the kind of grandma. I sincerely hope that the kid in future won’t have the traits of her mum and grandma, be taught that as long as you can cover up your mistakes and problems which Andy and Karen are practicing now, you can get away with anything. So i hope the kid will be set up by the government for adoption, so that he can be brought up in a proper home and are taught the proper manners and ways to be a man. Please do not let him be in the care of the Grandparents or Andy, or else the kid will suffer more and be taught of all the bad ethics and morals in life.
（唯一的挂念就是孩子，希望政府可以帮忙找到家庭收养，教孩子成长成人）
Conclusion I may not be the best husband around but at least i tried my best and given enough patience to her and her family. Yet you never treated me as a man, husband or allowing me to be a proper father. Even in divorce, you did it in an arrogant way, “take my offer of nothing and leave, i don’t care what are your wishes and resolutions as you won’t have money to fight against me as well” and using my studies to threaten me to accept your divorce terms. You really insulted my intergrity and pride. I endured for so long, for 12 years even with less than 5 times of sex for all these years, i stayed and support you, i endured what most man can’t endured because i love you and last few years for the love of the kid and family. But the way you manage the divorce change everything, i finally realise what kind of devil you are, all should end 3 months ago, but my love and pity for the kid make me give you 3 more months to consider or make amends but you didn’t and you gotten worse. I thought of getting justice through Singapore Law however that won’t be possible because of Women’s Charter, and my endurance for you and the maid is finally to the limit. So time is up. I will give you and the maid what you all deserve before i end mine. I said before for so many years, i don’t need anything from you, just need respect and honor as a man, knowing and loving you is really my biggest mistake in life. Son, sorry that you have to go through all these, I love you but your mum force me out of my limits. Hope your new family can help you overcome the trauma.
（在12年里，我们的夫妻生活不超过5次的情况下，我还是选择隐忍，但你没有给我一点尊重，从来没有把我当一个男人和丈夫看。我一直爱这个家爱这个孩子，但你处理离婚的方式改变了一切。我一直都说我不需要从你身上得到什么，只要你尊重我一个男人的尊严，但爱上你是我一生中最大的错误）
PS: Please help me spread this to let the Singapore government understand the kid predicament and send him for adoption, never ever let him stay with the grandparent who are terribly selfish and irresponsible, or with Andy who commit bigamy, he already have 2 wife and 3 kids, he won’t take good care of the boy.
（请帮我扩散给新加坡政府，让政府帮忙给孩子找收养家庭，千万别让他回到妻子的自私的家人手里）
警方已将案件列为非自然死亡案件处理，案件仍在调查中。
微博 @新加坡眼 网友的部分评论：
@熊玲玲儿：女死者是我妈公司的顾客，她还跟我妈的同事说他老公好吃懒作不找工作得靠她养（照这里看是他老公宁愿读书也不去上班吧），重点是她老公带小三回家过夜什么的。。。现在看这遗书…
@吃西瓜吃葡萄吃苹果：老婆家有钱，各种情妇包养；这男的的老婆也做别人的情妇还有了小孩，男的知道还娶了…然后各种不被老婆，老婆家人，甚至女佣的尊重，没话语权，然后爆发了…
@想__想：此人自身性格没有缺陷吗？都怪罪在妻子的性格和妻子的父母什么什么什么的。不是说人之将死其言也善吗？只看到他描述自己挣扎在痛苦里的部分，我就觉得他自身问题更大了。那些担心孩子的话都是屁话吧。只是为了将死前维系一下一个好爸爸的角色，极力把自己并不太善良的一面展现的很美丽很善良吧…
@HarrySG：太悲剧了！ 实在是有太多不满，所有人都骂一遍，，连Elites from China 都躺枪。。。
@Mialaurel：任何时候不要轻视婚姻的能力，它能毁掉一个人。
-新加坡眼整理，图片来源于海峡时报-
关键词：新加坡命案